You may end up getting to the same destination, but you?ll do it with a different course and things will flow more naturally.
3. Don?t try to control what you can?t control. When we try to control others, or obsessively control our surroundings, we are trying to control things that aren?t in our control. This will inevitably end up in failure, frustration, and conflict with others. Instead, accept that we can?t control these things, and flow around the obstacles with a minimum of effort.
4. Be in the moment. Be aware of the full situation, accept the situation, and respond appropriately.
5. See the possibilities. When we have our minds set, and our vision set, on one destination, we are often blind to other possibilities. We?ll miss opportunities this way. Instead, see all the possible paths and pick the one that will work best for you. That doesn?t mean to become indecisive because there are so many choices ? to be paralyzed by choice ? but instead to learn to move effortlessly among all the possible paths instead of being stuck on one path. This gets easier with practice, as you learn to trust your intuition.
6. Be flexible. When we are rigid, we will often break. Be like water, flowing around obstacles rather than trying to push them out of your way.
7. Find the pressure points. Sometimes, if you find the right spot, achieving something takes very little effort. Hitting a baseball with the sweet spot of the bat will cause it to go much further with less effort. Finding these spots of maximum effectiveness and minimum effort takes mindful effort, which is why effortless action isn?t mindless action.
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8. Do less and less, with less and less effort. Effortless action isn?t something that is achieved overnight. In fact, if you try too hard to achieve it, you?ve defeated yourself already. Instead, when you find yourself in a whirlwind of activity, and pushing hard, slow down, relax, and do less. Eliminate some of your motions so that you?re moving with economy. Push less, and flow more. Slowly learn to do less, and then do less, finding ways of doing that require little action but lots of effectiveness. Learn to let things unfold naturally instead of pushing them to happen. Let people learn on their own instead of controlling them. Set things up so they happen without you having to steer everything. Slowly learn to use less effort, and then less than that.
9. Anticipate the difficult by managing the easy. Another famous quote by Lao Tzu, it?s timeless and wise. If you can manage the easy, small things now, you?ll save yourself the time and effort of having to do the difficult things later. This allows for more effortless action ?you work less to achieve the same results.
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5: three strategies for prioritizing tasks
?If you chase two rabbits, both will escape.?
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One of the biggest problems people have when trying to find focus is having too many tasks competing for their time. It can be tough to prioritize.
Let?s break this problem into three smaller problems: 1. too many tasks
2. tough to prioritize
3. tasks compete for your time
And with that, let?s discuss three strategies for dealing with these smaller problems.
1. Reduce your tasks
If you have too many tasks, the solution is to simplify your task list. Take 10 minutes to list everything you need to do ? now just pick the 3-5 most important tasks. All the small tasks will go on a ?do later? list, and you?re not going to worry about them now.
A good way to deal with the smaller, routine tasks that must be done (check email, pay bills, fill out paperwork, and so on) is to schedule a block of time later in the day to deal with them ? perhaps the last 30 minutes of your day, or something like that. Early in the day, focus on the important tasks.
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2. Choose the task that excites you
Now that you?ve simplified your task list, look at the 3-5 tasks left and pick one task. Just one.
